Yesterday I felt so much love for my old Dad who is 87 and I wanted to share the story with you.
I’ve blogged about the power of writing letters before and this email exchange between father and daughter created feelings of pure joy mixed with poignant sadness that only the written word can evoke. I know I will treasure this memory forever.
Thanks for organising the meeting with your accountant yesterday, it was most helpful.
I do however feel uncomfortable talking about my inheritance before the time when I will receive it. I want you to know I love you for being my Dad and the money side is inconsequential.
I would much rather have a family who love me as a sister and know me for who I am than have a whole lot of money.
It’s strange you say the money doesn’t matter because I feel the same way. Maybe it’s because we have enough.
I love each of my kids for the persons they are and I would hate to think money made any difference, because it just would not be worth it.
Give your sister and brother a chance to show they love you for who you are, as I’m sure they do.
It needs someone with courage to make the first move. I would love you to test this out. Invite them over separately and quietly put all your cards on the table. I’m sure they remember and value the earlier days when they stood by you. I need not be in the picture, only if you want me to.
I’m sure it would make your mum very happy also.
You will be pleasantly surprised at the result about a situation that has arisen out of nothing. You will find the effort to fix it is worth it just as I have been happy in finding my sister again after a gap just as you are experiencing.
Please give this some thought and increase my special love that will always be between us.
I will take your suggestions and try again to reconnect. I don’t want to live in their pockets, I just want to know that I belong to a family who care about me.
Please promise me that you won’t mention what I have said to them. It is up to me to keep trying to improve the situation.
I am so lucky that I have you to talk to about these sorts of problems. I feel very sad to think that one day you will not be here and then I will feel alone.
Your loving daughter
You’ll never be alone while me or my spirit is about.
You’ll always be part of me.
Your Loving Dad