Joan’s place

white-picket-fenceLike a grand old lady growing old and infirm
Our once quaint beach house lacks vitality

She is broken and old
Lifeless and dull

Broken old furniture
Cracked and peeling paint
Cobwebs draping
Floors stained and lifting

Photographs of her glory days reflect a simpler life and happy family times
Treasured memories live in my heart forever

Mum was right to go when she did
She didn’t want to rot away before our eyes
Like her house

Should we let the old house rest in peace and follow new adventures somewhere else
or give her new life?

Maybe the time has come to let her slip away gracefully and with dignity like my mum.

9 thoughts on “Joan’s place

  1. Hi Jenna, I too believe in creating new traditions and memories in my family. I like what you said about ‘She lives in my heart,not in the walls of the house. A new look would be great for a new beginning and to celebrate your mum’s life :). Follow your heart and do what you feel is right. Much love, Pat


  2. …and now here are the 2cents of this little southern belle from Georgia—Jenna, I can’t comment fully on this issue as I don’t know the history here, the dynamics or the potentials or the exponentials— but is it at all a possibility of refurbishing / renovating the house? Financially speaking as well as being practical?
    As I’ve been moving so much of my mom’s and grandmother’s memories from Dad’s to my home–be it tables, chairs, lamps, pictures, etc… and wrestle with the question of wether or not will Dad stay in the house our have to transition to an assisted living…many of the ghosts of times past have really made themselves known—-My son has only known that house as Pop’s house–not the house I knew (thankfully) growing up. He is very adamant that should Pop have to move elsewhere, at some point due to age and health, well then, he wants the house.
    At first I thought that idea not only impractical but I thought I’d be truly glad to have that house extracted from my life. But as the months now pass as I go weekly to visit Dad and usually leave with some other box or piece of furniture, I think keeping the house does seem right—maybe not so much for me, but for my son and for my Dad. And in so doing I am discovering a peace as I let go of the anger, the angst, the sadness of what was and look to what can be… all in the one place that once suppressed me and held sorrow and heavy memories—which now offers cleansing from the old demons and offers new and endless possibilities—that my son could find the joy of living in a place that I found no joy seems quite hopeful and redemptive…..
    like I say, just my 2 cents adding a little food for thought—-and forgive me for overstepping with my input but it is said with great care for you, your feelings and memories of your mom..
    hugs Jenna—-Julie


    1. Hi Julie,
      Thank you so much for your thoughtful response to my post, I appreciate your input.
      If I am lucky enough to buy access to my parents holiday house one day, I would like to refurbish it and make it more like my own. This way I could hold on to my treasured memories of past times with my parents, husband and children as they were growing up, while looking ahead and creating new memories with my now adult children, their partners and their future children.
      The issue is that my children, particularly one of my daughters loves the house very much and wants it to remain a living memory of my very much loved mother, her grandmother.
      I am torn.
      Love Jenna


  3. Give her new life.

    Your mum lives in that place. It’s the reason you can’t be there anymore. Your guilt and inability to connect to the house without her, takes forms in the cobwebs on the walls. Be aware that cobwebs can be removed and we CAN celebrate her and the world she built for our family.
    I want my kids to know Joanie. I don’t want them to only hear stories of her lovely smile or her unbelievable luck, I want them to be connected to her and my own memories, through the place that has shaped my world as well as hers. Let my kids be a part of the magic of Merricks, and in turn a part of all of us.

    Don’t give up on us.


    1. My darling I will never give up on you. Please understand that I too remember and celebrate the past but I want to live in the present and look forward to the future.
      If that means creating new traditions and memories for our little family and their children in a remodeled house then this is what I would like to do. I truly believe Joanie would support me on this. She lives in my heart, not in the walls of the house. I love you from Jenna 🙂


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